Recently,i heard a rape case at my tuition place.A girl was raped by 10 boys and she’s serious now in hospital.(I don’t know how true it is…Its from what i heard).When i heard this i was shocked.The number of rape cases are increasing all times.Whats with the guys nowadays??
Mens and boys are also victims of sexual crimes.Does this means that male victims of sexual crimes are to be blamed for wearing provocative trousers?A person’s remarks and behaviour reflect his thinking.If a person chooses to think of a woman as a sexual object,then he will refer to her and treat her as one.Unless and untill he chooses to think differently,he will continue to disrespect women in his thoughts,words and actions.
Similarly,the motivation for the sexual crime is rooted in the mind of the rapist.Hence,the blame for the sexual crime is,and should be,with the perpetrator and not the victim.But as long as society continues to blame victims,the perpetrator of these stuffs will get away with the crime and the victims will not be able to get the help and support they truly needed. It is a fallacy that “provocative” dressing leads to sexual crimes.
And yet this fallacy persists, not just in minds of some men,but also in the minds of some women too.There are many examples of modestly-clad women who have been raped or sexually assaulted.The cold,hard reality is that a woman can be a victim of a sexual assault at any time and at any place,irrespective of her age,dressing,social or cultural background.The sexist remarks are a sad reflection of the mindet among some of our elected representatives.This is unacceptable and must change.
People out there….plz comment because i want to know how’s your opinion on this topic
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7:21 pm
Sometimes, we also cannot dismiss the possibly of women abusing rape for attention.
How DO we define rape ? A girl sleeps with a guy, then regrets it, and then cries rape ?
This is a very grey area and too many people are brainwashed by feminists/media to assume that if a victim cries rape, she must be telling the truth and no one should doubt her.
We need to look at things in a more neutral perspective and avoid letting our emotions get in a way.
Studies have shown that a high percentage of rape accusations/reports are fake, and women are known to have use rape accusations as revenge or attention gathering purposes.
[Actually you're true too.But some guys blame it "ALL" on girls that their dressing get them to get raped.I just wanted to bring out that guys should change their way of thinking for better life.Anyway thanks for commenting.]
4:44 pm
so true
11:57 pm
ShadowFox, you got the point… The girls are involved most of the times.. but when regret or afraid of public..they cry rape.. These cases are very common in Malaysia nowadays.. Many cases in the newspapers.. And too bad, the guy will get all the blame..
Hey Andrew,I understand what are you trying to say.but you are talking about after rape and i’m talking about how to prevent rape.Its all your mindset.You are just trying to say that guys are always not wrong because you all don’t want to be blamed.
12:32 pm
Quote from shadowfox
“This is a very grey area and too many people are brainwashed by feminists/media to assume that if a victim cries rape, she must be telling the truth and no one should doubt her.”
I was with a girl the other day, a friend of mine. We were having a small argument on some topic about equal right; during that argument the girl hit me… it was not hit for fun, real hit, for a moment the pain was… wow… den I wanted to scare her so I raise my hand and like wanna hit her and this what she said,
She: “Dare hit me? What would u do if I shout u hit me?”
Me: “Waa, you can hit people but people can’t hit u back huh?”
She: “You think the people around believe you or me? Touch me and the whole area will be on u!”
This happen between me and my friend, how if it’s a real situation? What if the girl creates an issue and the guy is innocent, to whom will the society side to? What will the media’s report would be?
[Kelvin,actually i agree with you.Some girls do take advantage on guys.But it doesn't reflect all girls.]
2:01 pm
Do you know why less are commenting on your site.. ?? Because for this topic,
they know that you will never change your perspective on this issue because you
are a girl.. So no one comments.. No point.. When people say, try to accept the
fact..
Come lets hear a story :
One day when Rebecca was walking, she saw a handsome guy. Then after few days,
she met him again and had a talk with him.. He was sweet and innocent.. So
rebecca decided to be with him and both of them cared for each other…
One day, Rebecca had to go for a competition in another town. So Rebecca told
her new “friend”. Then that guy told her that he could come there too.. Rebecca
was so happy..and then both of them went together.. All of Rebecca’s friends
stayed in a room but Rebecca went to stay in her ’special friends’ room because
she became a little horny that night..
And just for info, rebecca’s parents knew nothing about all this and about that
guy…
Finally rebecca had one night of enjoyment with that ‘new special friend’. Both
of them loved each other and did ’sumthing on that night’..
The following day, Rebecca came back home and she was tired after the
competition. Her father was waiting for with so much love… And then he was
advicing rebecca to study hard and he said to her that he loves her… And
Rebecca’s mom also said she loves rebecca…
On that very night… While Rebecca was on the bed… She thought back of
whatever her parents did for her..
AND THEN !! SHE REGRETTED WHAT SHE DID ON THAT NIGHT !!!
She got up of bed and told her mum whatever happened…
Now.. What do you think her mom will do ??
Oo.. Good job Rebecca !! or
give her a tight slap ?? or
comfort her by saying nvm its mistake in our life.. Don’t do it again..k..
Of course the third one right ??
No matter what happens at home.. Do you think Rebecca’s parents will go out
telling everyone about what has happened.. Of course no !!!
BUT TOO BAD !!! After some time…
Rebecca start vomitin and feels dizzy… U know what ??
REBECCA’S PREGNANT !!
So what will the parents do ??
Will they just leave it till the baby comes out ?? How are the parents gonna
face the community ??
Very easy.. Let me tell the solution.. Of course her parents cant go to the
police and say, sorry my daughter make mistake ..
But ther can go and tell that… That ‘new special friend’ of Rebecca has RAPED
her !!
Now, pity that handsome boy who just crossed this Rebecca and got into relation
with her !!!
It was rebecca’s fault but now to the world’s eye !! That boy had raped her !!!
SO instead of people talking like :
Rebecca is a dirty girl !! Tak tahu malu !!
It will now be
Oh my !! Pityful Rebecca !! Such a gud girl and she got raped !!
Can see the difference ???
So the story ends here !!
I’m not gonna conclude this story because I leave it to the readers to conclude
who is in fault …
Have fun till then !!
5:27 pm
Yes kelvin(the one).. You are totally right .. The time is changing now… The girls are taking advantage… They should be treated with equal rights… Just as they fight for equal rights over community, working and other aspects…
[Andrew not all girls are like that.Just because some take advantages don't blame it alll on girls ok..]
6:59 pm
ha ha..
how r u ??
I would really like to comment in detail about this but my hands are tied..
All i Can say is
ShadowFox and Andrew..
You guys are really hitting it down to the base..
”A person’s remarks and behaviour reflect his thinking.If a person chooses to think of a woman as a sexual object,then he will refer to her and treat her as one”
Rebecca, can you explain in detail about a person’s remarks??
Why does the girl trigger such remarks?
By wearing such outfit don’t you think she’s triggering such so called ‘fallacy’ ??
And lately no one is blaming the girls ..
Even if she ‘accidently’ did wrong, it falls on the guys head
and she gets all the pity she could get..
it’s so typical of the community to justify that the girl is innocent ..
But again, do know that not all guys are bad and not every girl is good..
12:34 am
hey rebecca…
way to go gal…i think dis is one of my fav post..
i do agree with u…in most rape cases..gals hv been the victims n de men hv always been trying to put the blame on victims themselves..simply bcos they hv de idea of being superior n v being inferior…n u noe wat…ppl like dis are absolutely inhumane…
u stated “the motivation for the sexual crime is rooted in the mind of the rapist”…it’s so true u noe…its all in ur mind…jus bcos they can’t control their bloody lust ..de women hv fall prey to them…God gave us a mind for us to control it…n dat’s our greatest gift…bcos no living thing has the ability to do this…
n u noe wat all of these rapists are indirectly proving dat they don deserve to b humans..n they jus too dumb enuf to realise that…